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Interfaith marriage is a reality in our nation today. The number of such marriages is escalating to an increasingly higher percentage. Interfaith marriage need not be viewed in a negative light where a partner is seen as rejecting or rebelling against faith or family. In an open society the formation of relationships between men and women of opposite ethnic and religious backgrounds is both natural and predictable.  When two people of different faiths and backgrounds can come together to form the most intimate of unions, that is, indeed, a reason to celebrate.

Many of today's interfaith couples desire a more spiritual rather than religious ceremony. Whether Interfaith or a traditional Jewish wedding whereby both partners are Jewish, I approach each ceremony individually and creatively. There are no two couples alike and a wedding ceremony should not be "one size fits all". I will assist you in the planning of your ceremony, with the two of you as the forefront. My intention is to complement the two of you. Consider this, you have a twenty to thirty minute window of opportunity during your ceremony to share your most heartfelt feelings for each other, before the most important people in your lives. You should not have to compromise, in the short span of time you have, with words that do not relate to who you are. Together we will construct a ceremony that will reflect your union and the fundamental beliefs that you share.

We will meet initially to gather information regarding your needs and desires as well as help you with the elements that you wish to include in your ceremony. I will share with you some suggestions and ideas towards making the wedding just right for you.

During our time together, you will have an opportunity to get a sense of my style and presentation. I believe that it is extremely important to share all details with you so that you will not have any surprises. This is very important in terms of interfaith ceremonies. The last thing you want is to be surprised by a statement that you didn't expect to hear as you share this time with family and friends. I will perform the entire ceremony for you as it is being created. This eliminates any anxiety on your part so you can be rest assured that your ceremony will come off just as you have planned.

I am able to perform weddings in compliance with the laws of every state in our country.  Additionally, I am often called on to sing at ceremonies whether it be simply the blessings or a song in either Hebrew, English or, even, Spanish. I know that music reaches and moves people. And so, either before or during the ceremony I will be delighted to sing a song that is special to the bride and groom, or a melody with lyrics that touch the heart, to personalize this special occasion.  Sometimes I am asked to provide music for the processional and recessional.  I can provide you with a CD containing music appropriate for both or I can sing, guitar in hand as you and your wedding party process and recess.  Remember, this is your wedding!  You decide how the ceremony will suit you best!

When both the bride and groom feel more comfortable with clergy of their own faith sharing a meaningful role in the ceremony, I will be happy to co-officiate with any representative of the clergy whom you choose, providing that the officiant is open to an ecumenical ceremony.  I am glad to recommend clergy with whom I have worked or know the reputation of if you need assistance in that process. Click on the ‘I Recommend’ tab for recommendations of clergy as well as other excellent wedding service providers.

Common Jewish Terms for the Wedding Ceremony

Breaking of the Glass: This custom has several meanings which seal the nuptials. While traditionally a remembrance of the destruction of the Holy Temple in Jerusalem 2000 years ago, there are many metaphors that can be applied to this beautiful tradition.

Chuppah: The Wedding Canopy constructed either simply or elaborately. Represents the new home that is being established by the couple. The canopy represents Gods love and covering over the family. The polls represent the support of the family and friends who are witnessing the ceremony. 

Ketubah: Traditionally this was the written contract between the groom and the Father of the bride. In modern times this tradition evolved into the spiritual contract between the bride and groom.  The choosing of this important document together with your partner can become one of the most profound experiences you share while planning your wedding. 

Kiddush: Growing up Jewish, one of the most observed rituals is the Kiddush, the blessing over the wine. Wine in the Torah always represents Joy, so it is no mystery that we lift the Kiddush Cup as often as we gather together and especially at a wedding.

Mazel Tov: This is the word shouted by all when the glass is broken at the end of the ceremony. Mazel Tov means much more than, “good luck and congratulations.” Deeper studies into these two words suggest a powerful “sending forth of energy”. In a way, it is a short prayer that the "joyous energy" that is felt at the moment the glass is broken will surround and sustain the couple throughout their lives together.

Providing essentials
Chuppah (if not available through caterer or florist) and Ketubah:

A Chuppah and/or Ketubah will be happily provided by me.  The Ketubah is a gift from me to the bridal couple. Couples often choose to have a specially made Ketubah suited to their choice of words and aesthetic.  For excellent Jewish lifecycle products, please visit 'Ketubahs and More'.

Renewal of Vows Ceremonies available for Anniversaries

Whenever a couple wants to renew their wedding vows and reaffirm their commitment to each other, whether it be a 5th or 55th wedding anniversary, I will be delighted to officiate.

Commitment Ceremonies for Gays and Lesbians

Through commitment ceremonies gays and lesbians can declare their love and commitment to each other and can enter into a legal partnership to gain some of the benefits of marriage. I am delighted to make this a truly memorable occasion.